Meeting porn performers in real life is dodgy. It can be lame, sad, scary, exciting and awe-inspiring, arousing, fierce and inspiring, a curiosity of plastic surgery disaster… any number of experiences. Like meeting anyone who does a lot of on-camera work, it’s seldom what you think it will be. So when I was at the most recent Art of Restraint event at Femina Potens, I met one of Kink‘s male stars Jack Hammer. And I have to say...

If you’re tired of me being agitated about the proposed .XXX domain extension, then you can skip this post (and know that when the ICANN comment period is over this month I will stop bugging you to use this text to email ICANN to tell them that .XXX = OMGWTFBBQ). But I do want to say a big *thank you* to the people who have sent in emails with me! That said, I got a ping last night from the people who set up the nifty website Dot-XXX Oppos...

LoveHoney welcomes models of all shapes and sizes that are happy to upload photos of themselves wearing lingerie, in return for admiration, artistic appreciation, an ego-massage and the chance to win £100 worth of lingerie! This month, we are delighted to announce that the winner of the £100 shopping spree is Toona, with a truly scrumptious pair of photos. Managing to capture the exhibitive essence of the Sven O Sheer Butt ...

Looking over last weekend’s photos from this year’s Bubble Baba Challenge, the world’s only annual blow-up doll whitewater rafting race (in Russia), I really want to go, and enter the competition! It looks like so much fun. My pal Kumi sent me this post-race article in the St. Petersburg Times Inflatable Sex Toy Challenge Attracts Over 450 and I’ve since been totally entertained looking through the official site (in Russi...

If you have stepped outside of the rules of “normal” for your culture, you have probably become attuned to language that reinforces those rules. For example, I never realized how monogamy-centric the majority of American fiction is — books and movies — until I delved into adult communities online. There, many people explore alternative relationship styles like polyamory and group unions, in the relative anonymity of the i...

Agent Provocateur had me re-upping my fangirl card with their recent retro-sexy video campaign to promote the Autumn/Winter 2010 collection, “Private Tapes.” Released and announced this morning, “Betty Sue” however, may be the best AP has created yet — and I wish it was an embeddable video so I could help it go viral. In it, supermodel Kirsty Hume stars as a no-apologies female pornographer and voyeur — and th...

Quickies and loving couples who occasionally like to “make fuck” aside (as compared to “making love”): for some guys it’s going to boil down to understanding the difference between a quick-and-dirty come-on — versus a bit more teasing, cat-and-mouse. However, there’s a little bit of ca-ca to step around first. Sex ed colleague (and longtime friend) Dr. Charlie Glickman has a must-read post up right now c...

It will probably surprise no one that I am a great admirer of work of Roger Corman, the exploitation cinema genius whose work I’ve celebrated at my other home. So it’s a special moment for me when new editions of some of his cult classics are published. And what do I watch first, once Humanoids from the Deep arrives? The bonus-material interview segments, of course, because I’m as big a nerd as ever drew breath (and damn proud...

ref="http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/9070422">my talk at Gnomedex came out; it was pretty much an unplanned 20 minutes, with the goal of talking about… well, exactly what I ended up taking about. But I just kind of let go… And to my amazement, I got a standing ovation at Gnomedex. In the ten years of the conference (Bethgo calls it, “the people’s TEDx”), there have only been three standing ovations, and I have the hon...

In a longer piece, Julie Meadows writes: A woman has natural power in this world. She is a potent source of sexuality and life. It is a gift, but as with all gifts, it is also a curse because men and women will always hate her for knowing her own power. That is why she is called a whore. She knows it, she uses it, and it scares people who want it or wish they had it, even if her choices have nothing to do with those people. Sex work can be safe...