Meeting porn performers in real life is dodgy. It can be lame, sad, scary, exciting and awe-inspiring, arousing, fierce and inspiring, a curiosity of plastic surgery disaster… any number of experiences. Like meeting anyone who does a lot of on-camera work, it’s seldom what you think it will be. So when I was at the most recent Art of Restraint event at Femina Potens, I met one of Kink‘s male stars Jack Hammer. And I have to say...

If you have stepped outside of the rules of “normal” for your culture, you have probably become attuned to language that reinforces those rules. For example, I never realized how monogamy-centric the majority of American fiction is — books and movies — until I delved into adult communities online. There, many people explore alternative relationship styles like polyamory and group unions, in the relative anonymity of the i...

This one’s for… hell, I’m not quite sure who it is for. It’s a buff young man getting his ass whaled, somebody out there must be looking for this because it’s a prolific porn genre of which this is a better-than-average vintage exemplar: Via. View this post in its original location at ErosBlog: The Sex Blog. If you are reading this anywhere but in a feed reader, it has been scraped without permission. Feed obta...

I guess now I know why no one tries to pick me up in Facebook. According to Top 10 Social Networking Pickup Tips on AskMen, you are all avoiding me because I don’t list a relationship status in my profile. “Anyone who has ‘it's complicated’ or worse yet, doesn't list a status at all, might have baggage — or a crazy boyfriend — you want no part of.” Really? I don’t list a relationship status because ...

Yes, you read that title correctly, and no it’s not The Onion spoofing anyone: via the Meeting Boy Tumblr, I found Want a raise? Wash your vagina (dailykos.com). In a post today, Daily Koz’s dhonig points out that one of the nation’s top-read conservative women’s magazines Woman’s Day is running a large ad from Summer’s Eve that combines advertising and editorial, telling women “how to ask for a raise...