Image by habkb. This week’s SF Chronicle column is Pole Dancing Gets Serious: Violet Blue watches gymnasts take over the gentleman’s club sport and turn it into an international competition. It was totally inspired by my visit last week to Sedusa Studios, the largest (and most welcoming) pole-dancing instruction place probably in the world. They did try to teach me one pole trick — I did fall very gracefully. But in the column,...

And Carol Queen is also my family — I am a lucky girl. I’m also on the Board of Directors for The Center for Sex & Culture, YAY!!! Check out this fun piece on AfterEllen, Carol Queen Aims to Inspire: In the anthology Live Through This, a collection of stories about the connection between creativity and self-destruction, bisexual sex educator Carol Queen recounts the unsatisfying experience of losing her virginity to one of her s...

Phew — making books is hard work. But I love it, and I’m *ecstatic* to announce the ebook version of my audiobook is ready for prime time: Sweet Heat: Explicit Erotica For Couples. It should be on Kindle in a little bit; I also forgot to tell you that my book “erotic role-play: a guide for couples” (in ebook; in audiobook) also now has a Kindle edition. If you swing that way. I do not judge — but I *am* building a D...

Image of super-sekrit women’s volleyball hand signals courtesy of this giant gallery of Olympic volleyball ass at NBC’s feelthy dirrrty “Cracking the Code” Beijing 2008 beach volleyball gallery. You just can’t make this shit up, I swear. And thank those Olympian gods for that. … but I just can’t put my finger on why they make me feel so unwholesome… This week my SF Chronicle Open Source Sex column ...

I woke up to an email in my inbox from a total stranger telling me that the man I tried to get a restraining order against last week had uploaded and linked to police reports I made based on his activities, which contained unredacted my phone number, address, California driver’s license number and all my personal information on the reports linked to from Wikipedia as downloadable .pdfs — in addition to chatting about finding my Socia...

Image of cute ecosexual girls by the wonderful Demetrius Gonzalez. This week’s Chronicle column was all about greener sex — and whether a person who drives a Prius is hot or not. Are they? Meanwhile, I got all the good jokes in the comments: “Priapus” and “Pious” were the best. It was quite amusing to see the column reposted on the I Hate Prius Drivers blog… do read Ecosexuals do it greener: Violet Blue ...

It’s an interview you don’t want to miss: one of my all-time favorite hero sex educators Cory Silverberginterviews me (and hilariously, vice-versa) for Studio SXSWi. In the glass cube in front of a sizable audience — and audio broadcast to the whole convention floor — we talk, laugh and get serious about many urgent pertinent sexual topics we all face today as individuals online. Sexual privacy (and especially personal p...

I’ll admit I Flickr’d it before posting the brag-gasm here (spank as you please), but here’s my ecstatic comment, “they called me “beloved”! it was quite a surprise, even the photog couldn’t tell me what it was for. I just went for it and hoped for the best… (in print and web).” I do take seriously, however, the snuzzly-dog-catster gauntlet comment thrown down at me by Sir Rheingold for compe...

Intimate moments in hugely public spaces are divine. Image via obama blackfolk. In my San Francisco Chronicle column this week, I basically write an open letter to Barack and Michelle Obama (and the nation) about the urgency of saving our kids from thr perils of current sex ed programs, and tell them exactly how to do it. As a side note, there are just too damn many insanely sexy pictures of Barack and Michelle to choose just one for this post &...

Ok… if you don't know who Violet Blue is, then you must not watch a lot of porn. This sexy little debutante is a real sex freak and she's starred in more porn films than I can count, so it was a real treat when I got her in my apartment to give me a sweet handjob. This little vixen has a “fuck me” look that could make a dick spurt from 20 feet away, and I was up close and personal with cock out and in her careful grip! ...

Thanks to Violet Blue (who provides more context) I can link you to the Ten Commandments Of Smut, which is after being some excellent basic erotica-writing advice by M. Christian. Just one commandment for flavor: II. Thou Shalt Not Own a Thesaurus An exaggeration, of course (to get that vicious Roget off my case). The need [...]

Much has been written (or at least alluded to) about how to *actually* fuck like a porn star. My column Sex for money, not love: Violet Blue asks rising adult superstar Lorelei Lee about the differences between sex work and sex not-for-work covered it; last week Frisky’s ran the odd article “Five Tips For Screwing Like A Porn Star”. It is sex-positive, but… erm, interesting. Hats off to Lux for taking the fluffiness, addin...

Image via violetbluevioletblue.net Walking into a Castro business today, the guy behind the counter saw me and called out, “Hey! I thought you were unpublished!” I grinned and replied, “Hey, don’t make me unsmile.” Later, at my publisher’s office, I got a big butch hug. “You know you can’t have a dyke romance without a little dyke drama. You’ve been initiated.” She also congratulated me...