The Journal of Sexual Medicine recently published some Australian research showing that BDSM practitioners are no more likely than their vanilla counterparts to have been coerced into sexual activity and are no more likely to be unhappy or anxious. In fact, men who engage in BDSM scored significantly lower on a scale of psychological distress [...]

This week I decided to focus on latex menswear and give you an idea of the great range that's out there, contrary to the age-old "There's nothing for guys" complaint! The cheeky trio shown are models for the small English company, Latex 101, makers of "the best in kinky boyswear." The site specializes in handmade latex underwear, shirts and casualwear for men, including a fun range called Hero Gear. Included in this category are Thundercats shirt...

My personal belief is that no man is ever truly surprised when the woman he's with reveals herself to be a transsexual, a dominatrix, or a Mormon. So Mistress Berlin's question of Julian at the beginning of "Gia Darling Will Kick Your Ass!" is part of the elegant dance between domme and sub, like French Court face-saving protocol. Of course he knows he's about to get beaten, pegged, and "forced" to fellate a transsexual, but the savvy domme also ...

This week we'll focus on some of the exciting fashion coming out of America, with four classically trained designers who choose to work in latex. Vex Clothing has been on the scene for several years by now, and has made quite a name with their custom designs worn by everyone like KumiMonster, RubberDoll, Emily Marilyn, Masumi Max and our own 3XL. The lines are a creative mix of fetish and fashion, using uncommon to fetish color combinations and t...

"THERE'S a whipping post in the corner, the coat-check room is manned by girls in lingerie and women of all ages and body types are dressed in tight corsets while men reveal far more of their bodies than most people would ever want to see. This is Hellfire, arguably Australia's most notorious fetish club, and as I perch nervously on a sofa wondering what on earth I'm doing here, a large bear of a man sits next to me and takes off his shirt.'Are y...

Dear Mainstream Media,Can we talk? Okay. You know I love you, but you have to get with it, image-wise. I have spoken to you before about this doomed love affair you're having with the cats-eye mask?I see that you can't seem to help yourself. But just stop. Using an image of someone in a mask like this to portray a kinky person is like showing a photo of this guy to portray the modern hippie movement.I hate that collar, too - the model looks as if...

A new study has come to shocking conclusion that people who are into BDSM are not really dangerous and deranged individuals who were abused as children—in fact, they might actually be "normal!" Don't worry, you can still be into bondage and still be a freak—just, you know, the good kind. (theaustralian.news.com.au)

I’m still technically on break but since I’m doing radio today, I decided it was okay to blog, because this story has me steamed despite its happy ending. (Irony: Since going on hiatus, I’ve come up with five intense ideas, all deeply personal and chock-full of insight and epiphany. Yes, indeed. Sheer brilliance, I tell you. But I haven’t taken notes and I’m afraid I’m going to forget them, since I no longer ha...

The LoveHoney community is a wonderful place to discuss absolutely everything! The forums are currently buzzing with all kinds of discussion, from the weird and wonderful to the interesting and informative. Here are the best threads from the past week for your perusal: Orgasm Army The best thread for all of those interested in anal play is Butt Plug Central! Not just a topic for the lads, this useful thread has plenty of product re...

For most people the words "electricity" and "genitalia" should never be combined! However, what is known as electro sex is becoming increasingly popular, not just with the BDSM community but with people who want a little something different to the usual thrusting and vibrations too. The prospect of electricity and sex together is a little intimidating! The words alone conjure up all sorts of questions: What does it feel like? Will it ...

From the "silly emails" department... I wanted to say hello to You and say I was impressed with Your site.1 it was also nice not to see the typical "I will dominate you for $xx.xx".2 I think Your site seems genuinely interested in the wants and needs of submissives, which brings me to my question. Who is really in charge if a session is set up for all the wants and needs of the submissive?3 What i want to know, is what do YOU truely enjoy?4. W...

A new podcast, in which Monk and I rant a lot - because we can - about BDSM culture, "getting into the scene", and being a BDSM vendor. A bit longer than usual: 17 minutes. And not safe for work. Enjoy!

Wow, did I get a lot of advice and helpful suggestions about my refrigerator! Ya'll are better than "This Old House." So thank you, nice people, for all your words of wisdom. Several clever readers noted that they Googled for answers to this domestic puzzle. Perhaps they were insinuating something. Yes, I know I lecture you about intellectual laziness and tell all of you to ask Mistress Google something before you ask me. But hey, those rules do...