If you have stepped outside of the rules of “normal” for your culture, you have probably become attuned to language that reinforces those rules. For example, I never realized how monogamy-centric the majority of American fiction is — books and movies — until I delved into adult communities online. There, many people explore alternative relationship styles like polyamory and group unions, in the relative anonymity of the i...

I guess now I know why no one tries to pick me up in Facebook. According to Top 10 Social Networking Pickup Tips on AskMen, you are all avoiding me because I don’t list a relationship status in my profile. “Anyone who has ‘it's complicated’ or worse yet, doesn't list a status at all, might have baggage — or a crazy boyfriend — you want no part of.” Really? I don’t list a relationship status because ...

Debby Herbenick gives the iPhone 4 and FaceTime video chat a turgid, throbbing thumbs up as a cybersex platform. I’ve been taking another look at the current options for teledildonics, so of course my first thought was “sounds great, and will it work with the OhMiBod?” I figured it would, as the OhMiBod toys vibrate in response to audio, whether music or voice or random environmental sounds (depending on which toy you get). Bu...

According to Mashable, Dating site OkCupid reports that among its subscribers, iPhone users report the highest number of sexual partners, while Droid users report the lowest. Blackberry users are somewhere in the middle. iPhone Owners Have the Most Sex Partners OkCupid looked at the data hidden in the images that users uploaded as profile pictures to see which cameras were used to take them ? including smartphone cameras. With many of the site'...

This looks like an interesting event, similar to Sex 2.0 (or perhaps it actually is the evolution of the Sex 2.0 unconference?) Welcome to the first annual MOMENTUM Conference taking place on April 1 to April 3, 2011 in Washington, DC. The phenomenal growth of online communication has given rise to an amazing amount of sharing, learning and experimenting with different expressions of sexuality, relationships and feminism. MOMENTUM provides a saf...

I noticed that polyamory author Jenny Block is gettin’ all coupony with Good Vibrations, so I negotiated a discount code for my readers too — at EstaNoche.com though, because that’s MY client. I’ve written everything in the Community section so far, and I’ve even filled in on the blog while our star blogger Elvira is galvanting around Europe. Oh and I wrote the Test Your Sex Toy IQ educational quiz, too. DISCOUNT/COU...

I’ve never set my relationship status on Facebook or any other social media. As you have noticed, I am an extremely private person, never willing to share any details about my romantic life, reluctant to open myself up to other people’s commentary about — okay, okay, you caught me. Yes, I am a private person about many things. Sex isn’t one of them. But setting my relationship status will only complicate, not clarify. I...

I suppose this isn’t on-topic as it is sex science related to animals, not people. Also, it’s sad — if I am reading it correctly, the discovery process involved vivisection. But it’s worth reading, just to be able to quote a scientist every time a problem crops up in the future. Super squid sex organ discovered The mating habits of deep-sea squid have been revealed for the first time, after the discovery of a male squid wi...

The sex.com domain is for sale again, along with two trademark registrations, reports CNET blogger Lance Whitney. But before you whip out that credit card, you might want to consider the history of the domain. First it was stolen from Match.com founder Gary Kremen by con man Stephen Cohen. Cohen exploited the domain for millions of dollars before the court system finally decided that domain names could be worth something. But by the time Kremen ...

Apparently 37 percent of the Web is porn. I don’t know if they mean pornography literally or if they included all sex-related content – I will have to do some digging to find out. According to the report, which looked at a representative sample of around four million extracted URLs, adult content on the Internet increased by 17 per cent in the first quarter of 2010, as compared to the same period in 2009. Web sites related to the onl...

Interesting post over at Gigaom about the opportunity for porn companies to take advantage of Apple’s use of HTML5 instead of Flash for its mobile devices. And, to complete the “which came first, the porn or the tech” cycle of engineering, how porn’s adoption of HTML5 will push HTML5 into the forefront of multimedia authoring and delivery. Why Porn and the iPad Are Key for HTML5 The emergence of HTML5 is largely being spu...

If you have ever obsessed about a flame, an ex-flame, or an ex-flame’s new flame, then you have probably noticed how close the Facebook people search box is to the status update box. Have you ever accidentally typed your obsession’s name into the status box and published it? What happened next?

I’m sure that “people use vibrators!” isn’t news to you, but here are some honest-to-goodness statistics with which to wow your skeptical friends and to help a shy partner open their hearts to toys. New Research on Vibrator Use. …researchers Michael Reece and Debra Herbenick along with colleagues from Indiana University (and one self-interested researcher from Trojan) recently published two studies on vibrator use i...