Since my return from Georgia Tuesday, I've been spending time relaxing and enjoying the sensual pleasures of these late-summer days. More frequent blogging will return soon. But meanwhile, the Twitter feed will keep you up to date on my thoughts of the moment. Event For The Seattle People: if you're a fan of beautiful women's feet, you should know about this party. Seattle Footnight! Thursday September 9th, from 8pm-midnight. These are fun events...

Ah, the miracle of the internet. From a sunny front porch overlooking the ocean, I give you: a new Stranger column, about a subject dear to the hearts of sexually-adventurous women everywhere. Limits, Conditions, and Consequences.

A brief note about schedules, both real and virtual...I'm out of town for most of the next week, visiting family down in Georgia. But I'm back as of September 1st, and I'd be happy to make times to see people after that.And I will be mostly unavailable through Sept 21st to Sept 26th, as I'll have yet another round of family visiting here in Seattle.Someone told me today, "You almost never blog anymore." I don't think that's quite accurate, I do t...

What Do You Do?A pal of mine asked me a question yesterday, and I'm just going to pop off an answer here. This will not be the most polished and perfected set of remarks I have on the subject, because I'm having a madly-busy week. But it'll give a sense of my position on the subject.The pal in question is a girl who became a sex worker (as I recall) about a year ago. She's struggling with the question of: when to disclose to new acquaintances and...

Today I'm running an article that was originally published in online magazine Filthy Gorgeous Things. It's on how I feel about the space in which I play.***They say you remember lessons best when you're in the place where you learned them. I believe that, because when I walk into my dungeon, I always remember the lessons I've learned about who I am, and what I can do.I said "dungeon" ? but actually, I rarely use that word, because it isn't one I ...

A new podcast! First, Monk and I have a brief discussion about our ability to fight off an attack by maniacal clowns. Then we answer a letter from a woman who wants to be a sex worker, but who made the mistake of asking strippers for advice about being an escort. I discuss my thoughts about sex work hierarchies, and how sex work businesses are like Fight Club. Hope it's educational? (About ten minutes.)(Note: I'm aware the show is not currently s...

A new Stranger column, to amuse you on this sunny Friday: a discussion about the eternal allure of crazy bottoms. Frankly, I thought it would be a flame-fest by now. The last column, about monogamists dating the polyamorous, is still garnering me hate mail. But apparently it's okay for me to talk about people being batshit crazy, as long as I'm not suggesting that anyone can be happily polyamorous. Good to know.

It's a new podcast! In this episode, Monk and I briefly discuss how the Zombie Apocalypse would affect my diet Mountain Dew consumption. Then, we read and answer a letter from a dominant woman who feels nervous about her scenes. Key point: she's eighteen years old. How should a young kinky person build confidence?And I also have to blow a kiss to Monk, because this is the Official Weeklong Celebration of His Birth! No mere birthDAY for Monk, no n...

Yesterday I read an article about non-monogamy in New York magazine by bloggers/sex-advice-givers Em and Lo entitled "The New Monogamy". It seriously annoyed me, and I'm going to critique it, so this post won't make a lot of sense unless you read that first. So go do that.Em and Lo offended me pretty much right out of the chute, with their talk about their ideas about what non-monogamy for their boyfriends would look like."We each recently began...

A look back at old posts in the much-beloved silly-phone-calls archive, 2004: A Near-Goddess Experience. (Follow and read the linked posted first, or this won't make sense.)The amusing thing is that sex workers and their clients using spiritual mumbo-jumbo as a code for sexual behavior certainly isn't new. Long before I was ever a pro domme, I worked at some places where we did "spiritual healing" and "chakra alignment and release" etc. Uh-huh. ...

The new Stranger column, about what happens when monogamous attempt to rustle the polyamorous. It's sure to provoke either winces of recognition or indignant argument. Enjoy!

If you have a cock and a tape measure, I need a little favor from you.No, I do not want to know the size of your cock. What I want to know is: what the measurement from your mouth to the base of your groin? And here's the important part ? I need the measurement of it taken while you are lying down.That's an odd request, isn't it? Let me explain? You see, I am having a charming piece of kink equipment made for me by some superb local craftspeople....

Books I'm Reading LatelyThere's been Sex At Dawn of course, of which much has already been said. I'm enjoying it very much, and I recommend it. But I have other books going on as well.One of them I consider half professional training ? given that I do speak in public on occasion - and half sheer curiosity about what must be a challenging way to make a living: Confessions of a Public Speaker by Scott Berkun."Confessions of a Public Speaker provide...